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Sunday Confessional: I Told My Friend She Looked Bad

DearSugar — Sun, 09 Nov 2008 09:00:00 -0800

A good friend of mine recently broke up with her live-in boyfriend of three years. Though it was her decision to end things, it was still a difficult choice to make; she still really cares about him. All her friends have been there for her and she's done a great job moving on. In an effort to put the past behind her, she wanted to make a change, so she committed the cardinal breakup sin of changing her look. She'd always had long, dark, beautiful chestnut hair and without consulting any of us, she went to the salon, cut it short, and dyed it blond!She invited me over to come see her new locks and I was speechless — she looked like a completely different person! I could tell that she loved it and I could see a new sense of confidence in her face, but I absolutely hated it. In my opinion, she looked 10 times better before. When she asked my "honest opinion," I gave it to her. I told her it wasn't my favorite look on her. She got incredibly upset, told me I was an unsupportive friend, and asked me to leave her house. Now I'm feeling horrible for hurting my friend's feelings, but I didn't know what to do; she asked me to be honest! I've called her, written her emails, and sent text messages apologizing, but she won't return any of my efforts. I know I should have just lied under the circumstances, but can I be forgiven for speaking the truth?Source

Sunday Confessional: I Told My Friend She Looked Bad

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True Confession — Sex Life Stuck in the Past

DearSugar — Wed, 14 May 2008 07:00:00 -0700

Weigh in and tell us if you forgive or not forgive this True Confession."I would do anything to have one more night with the ex — man, he rocked my world like nobody else, not even my husband! Can I be forgiven for thinking about him even though I've moved on?" Source

True Confession — Sex Life Stuck in the Past

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True Confession — I'm Toying With His Emotions

DearSugar — Wed, 07 May 2008 07:00:00 -0700

I know how much you all love our Sunday Confessional, so my friend at True Confessions is joining forces with me to bring you a midweek confessional! Weigh in and tell us if you forgive or don't forgive the confessional below."My ex is trying to get back together with me. I have no plans on going through with it but I sure am enjoying the sense of power I feel right now! Is toying with his emotions forgivable?"Source

True Confession — I'm Toying With His Emotions

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Sunday Confessional: I Hurt My Sister Out of Jealousy

DearSugar — Sun, 23 Mar 2008 09:00:00 -0700

My husband and I have been trying to have a baby for just under three years now. It's been a difficult process to say the very least. The worst of it came about nine months ago when I had a miscarriage at 14 weeks. I was so happy to be pregnant that the miscarriage was absolutely devastating. For weeks afterwards I was depressed and felt hopeless. During this time, my sister, who is a couple of years younger than me, broke the news that she was pregnant. The father of the baby had basically told her that he wanted nothing to do with the baby. She told me in a very gentle and respectful way, and initially, I tried not to get upset, but when she started to tell me how she was scared about having a baby and being a mother, I completely lost it. I turned on her, called her horrible names, said she would make a bad mother, and basically went out of my way to hurt her. She left my house in tears.Even though I knew I was being stubborn, I didn't make any efforts to apologize to her. Although it devastated my parents, I refused to speak to my sister or have anything to do with her unborn child. It took months of personal healing to realize that her pregnancy wasn't any kind of personal attack on me. I realized how selfish I had been and unkind. About a week ago, I tried to reach out to her and apologize — she's in her eighth month now — and she basically slammed the door in my face. Now, I don't know what to do. Should I be forgiven for my terrible behavior? Source

Sunday Confessional: I Hurt My Sister Out of Jealousy

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Sunday Confessional: I Broke My Promise

DearSugar — Sun, 09 Mar 2008 11:19:04 -0700

I love going out dancing with my girlfriends. I’ve been in a happy relationship for over year so it's not about meeting guys, it's just about having fun. Naturally though, guys come up and start to dance with us, usually for a few minutes or so we box them out so to speak. A while back, my boyfriend asked me if I danced with other guys when I went out to the bars. I told him that I had, but I tried to avoid it for the most part. He was upset, and felt like I was giving off the wrong impression. Since I wouldn’t want him to be buying other girls drinks when he’s out with his guy friends, I promised him that I wouldn’t dance with other guys anymore. I have followed through on this promise until recently. While out a couple months ago, a goofy guy started dancing with me. We were both doing silly moves from the 80s, and there was zero physical contact, but it was a lot of fun. My friends were laughing about it the next day, and my boyfriend overheard. He got really mad at me for breaking my promise, and now every time I mention going out, he makes a snide remark about it. I feel horrible for hurting him, but I just don’t think this attitude is deserved. Should I be forgiven for this silly misstep? Source

Sunday Confessional: I Broke My Promise

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Sunday Confessional: Did I Cheat?

DearSugar — Sun, 05 Aug 2007 08:00:00 -0700

I'm a 29 year old, very happily married woman. We've been married for 7 years and just bought our dream home together. The other night my husband's cousin's husband was over at our house for a party. (They've been married 2 years and have a baby together). Everyone was drinking and having a great time. He came up to me in the kitchen and wanted to give me a hug to thank me for the party. I thought nothing of it, so I said, "Of course you're welcome, I'm glad you're enjoying yourself." He held me tight, pushed me up against the refrigerator and said, "It could be better..." He caressed my chest and kissed my neck. I, of course, pushed him back and said, "I think you've had enough to drink, how about some coffee?" He approached me again this time pushing me into the wall harder and I could tell he was very excited. He said, "You're looking so hot lately, I want you." (I've recently lost 35 pounds.)I have to admit, a part of me was very flattered. I've been with my husband since I was 18 and the thought of another man finding me attractive was a huge boost for my often low self esteem. Honestly, I lingered a bit longer than I should have -- I let him kiss me and it was very hot and exciting; I actually haven't been that aroused in a long time. After what felt like an hour, really only about 30 seconds, I panicked and pushed him away. I told him that should have never happened and ran out of the room. My problem is ever since that party, whenever this guy comes over he looks for reasons to be in a room alone with me. He's constantly hitting on me and has tried to kiss me a few times. I told him he's playing with fire and needs to back off. I didn't tell my husband because he would flip out, never mind the heartache it would cause the family. But he won't stop approaching me. He even calls me at work, asking when he can see me. I tell him I'm very busy, can't talk and hang up. I avoid him at all costs but my husband keeps asking why I'm being rude. What do I do? Should I have just said something right after the incident? I feel like I cheated even though nothing really happened. Is this forgivable? Source

Sunday Confessional: Did I Cheat?

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Sunday Confessional: Should I Forgive Myself?

DearSugar — Sun, 29 Jul 2007 09:00:00 -0700

I had a close friend for 4 years, who I lived with for two of those four. A year ago I moved across the country but we stayed in close contact. I promised her I would fly out to see her on Halloween. The date neared, and I realized I didn't want to go for various reasons (too lazy, mostly. I fly standby as my mom worked for an airline, so it involves waiting around to see if I get on a flight). Anyway, I called her and lied, saying I had tried but didn't make it on a flight. It was cowardly, yes. I did it to avoid drama and also because I was afraid to tell her I just didn't want to put in the effort at the last minute. She called me out on my fib and I denied it, telling her I was mad she would accuse me of such a thing (cringing even typing this)! After irrationally and falsely attacking her instead of coming clean, I took a step back and then told her the truth, apologizing to her sincerely and letting her know I had flown off the handle and had acted crazy, and that I was sorry to have mislead her. I was simply afraid to tell the truth, and the more I denied my lie, the harder it became to confess.To make a long story short, she stopped talking to me. I have a feeling this is all sounding very Seventeen magazine, but I can't stop shaming myself for lying to her like that. I am consumed with embarrassment over my behavior and at the same time, I feel completely slighted that she simply dropped me like a bad habit after 4 years of tight friendship.Was what I did truly beyond reproach? How do you let go of someone you love who clearly does not love you?

Sunday Confessional: Should I Forgive Myself?

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Sunday Confessional: Is it OK to not Call him Back?

DearSugar — Sun, 22 Jul 2007 09:00:00 -0700

I met this guy a few months ago -- he seemed pretty cool and we had a great time together, but things ended up going south pretty soon after we met. He was very aggressive and persistent, and while I was incredibly flattered at first, it started to become extremely overbearing and tiresome. I began to distance myself but he continued to call me, text me and e-mail me. I am not one for confrontation so I avoided all of his advances like the plague and never returned his calls, e-mails or texts. I HATE when guys do that to me, just drop off the face of the earth with no explanation, but I am doing the exact same thing to this guy. I know that I shouldn't feel bad about not reciprocating his feelings, but I do feel bad about ignoring the situation even though I have no desire to contact him, let alone date him or spend time with him. Is what I am doing a complete double standard or is it forgivable since guys do it to girls all the time?Source

Sunday Confessional: Is it OK to not Call him Back?

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Sunday Confessional: I Can't Stop Checking his E-Mail!!

DearSugar — Sun, 15 Jul 2007 09:00:00 -0700

My boyfriend and I were in a very serious relationship for about a year- we were best friends and completely in love. However, he is a workaholic, so eventually it reached the point where I felt neglected when he would have to "pencil me in" to his schedule a week in advance just to see him. I basically told him that I wanted to be more of a priority in his life (not in 5th place behind your job etc) or we needed to break up -- so we broke up. We were very close, so of course I knew his email password. However, this came to become a problem for me after we broke up. It's been several months since we have been separated and I am addicted to checking his email to see what is going on in his life. I have never done anything other than passively observe, however, I realize how wrong and stalkerish it is. But, I'm addicted and seriously don't know how to get myself to stop! I feel horrible about it every time I do it, yet I keep doing it. In addition, not only is it betraying his trust, but in a way, it really isn't helping me move on at all! I feel more obsessed than in love, and that makes me sick. Is what I am doing forgivable? Has anyone else been in a similar predicament? Source

Sunday Confessional: I Can't Stop Checking his E-Mail!!

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Sunday Confessional: I Blew It!

DearSugar — Sun, 08 Jul 2007 09:00:00 -0700

I just moved into a new city, alone, without a job and without any of my girlfriends, to start a new life after a bad breakup. I was having a really hard time getting a job and as hesitant as I was to ask for help, I gave in and let my mother's best friend pull some strings to get me an interview with her company. The night before my interview, my neighbor invited me out with a bunch of his buddies. I knew I should have stayed home and gotten a good night's sleep before my interview, but I didn't want to pass up an opportunity to finally go out and meet new people -- so I went. I ended up having a great time but drank entirely too much alcohol on an empty stomach, a sure fire recipe for disaster. I got home past 2am and ended up getting sick all night long.I slept right through my alarm clock in the morning, but jumped out of bed to get ready for my interview. Needless to say, I was incredibly hung over and probably reeked like a bar. My head was fuzzy to say the least and I completely bombed my interview. I left feeling mortified that I not only represented my self in an unprofessional manner (very much not my style), but I felt like a poor reflection of my mom's best friend who helped me get the interview. I know it was a stupid decision to choose a night out on the town over a potential job offer, but is what I did forgivable?Source

Sunday Confessional: I Blew It!

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Sunday Confessional: Am I a Horrible Daughter?

DearSugar — Sun, 01 Jul 2007 09:00:00 -0700

I am in my late 30's and am still having difficulty getting along with my mother. After college, I moved in with my now husband and never really spent significant time with my mother. She raised my sister and I on her own and while I know she did the best she could do given our circumstances, I still hold resentment towards her for our lack of closeness.She is staying with my family over the 4th of July and I can already feel myself getting anxious and crabby. I have tried to make as many plans with other family members and friends to avoid spending alone time with her, but now I am feeling incredibly guilty for dodging my own mother. She has been looking forward to spending time with her me and her grandchildren for months now while I have been dreading it. Am I a horrible person for having ill feelings for my overbearing, over critical mother? Source

Sunday Confessional: Am I a Horrible Daughter?

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Sunday Confessional: Am I Asking for it?

DearSugar — Sun, 24 Jun 2007 09:00:00 -0700

I recently ran into an old friend. He is married with kids and we hadn't seen each other in almost 10 years. We never "dated" per se, but whenever we were together, we couldn't keep our hands off each other. It was great seeing him; we talked for about 10 minutes, exchanged business cards, and went on our merry ways.Well, a week later, I got an e-mail from him. He said how great it was to see me, how amazing I looked, and he asked me to have lunch with him. Now, I would be lying if I said I wasn't excited that he contacted me, but knowing full well that men and women can't be friends, a big part of me thinks he is hitting on me. But here is the catch, I said yes to lunch... I know cheating is wrong, and I am not necessarily saying anything is going to happen between us, but I am feeling the same emotions when I am about to go on a first date!! Is this whole situation just wrong? Am I asking for trouble or is it OK to go out to lunch with an "old friend?" Source

Sunday Confessional: Am I Asking for it?

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Sunday Confessional: I Outed my Boss

DearSugar — Sun, 17 Jun 2007 10:25:16 -0700

Last Friday at work, I was snooping around on Match.com with a friend and co-worker and we came across our boss's picture!! He is an extremely good looking guy, but very much keeps to himself and never talks about his personal life. I am not sure why, but everyone has always thought of him as a total ladies' man, so we were shocked to see his profile on the screen. Of course we read up on him and found out that he totally lied about his age, weight, height, etc! Needless to say we thought this was the funniest thing we had ever seen and simply couldn't keep it to ourselves. We called our other friends over to my desk to show them our discovery and before I knew it, there was a very loud party in my cube. Since it was Friday, I assumed he was gone for the day...but I was sadly mistaken. He came over to see what was all the noise was about and found his Match.com profile up on my computer screen. He turned beet red and walked away without saying a single word. I felt horrible that I embarrassed him and immediately kicked everyone out of my cube. He is a very professional guy, so I am not worried about my job per se, but I just feel terrible for "outing" him. Is what I did forgivable? Source

Sunday Confessional: I Outed my Boss

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Sunday Confessional: I Caught him in the Act and Didn't do Anything

DearSugar — Sun, 10 Jun 2007 09:00:00 -0700

My best friend has been dating a guy who none of her friends like for about three months now. He runs in our same circle and had a terrible reputation of being a total dog. Last summer he dated a mutual friend of all of ours and he ended up breaking her heart, so my best friend has been forewarned about him more than enough times. Well, last weekend I was having dinner with my boyfriend and we ran into him leaving a bar with a random girl I had never seen before. I was in such shock that I didn't say anything, but my boyfriend said hi, they small talked for a bit, and then we left. On our way home, I couldn't stop talking about how disturbed I was that we just blatantly caught him on a date with another girl. I asked my boyfriend what I was supposed to do and he said to keep my mouth shut, to stay out of it, that it was none of my business, so I didn't say anything. Well, now that almost a week has passed, I can't help but feel guilty that I wasn't honest with her. I would absolutely want to be told if I were in her shoes. Is keeping my mouth shut wrong after all? Source

Sunday Confessional: I Caught him in the Act and Didn't do Anything

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Sunday Confessional: I Overflowed her Toilet

DearSugar — Sun, 03 Jun 2007 09:00:00 -0700

I am so embarrassed!! I was at my best friend's housewarming party on Friday night and excused myself to go to the restroom. Unfortunately, I wasn't feeling that great and let's just say nature called!! I am not sure if it was her new plumbing or just a sensitive flusher, but I overflowed her toilet!!! Instead of copping up to what could easily be fixed, I snuck around through the kitchen and pretended like I was fixing myself a drink instead of being in the bathroom and didn't say a word, to anyone. I thought I was going to get away with my disgusting accident Scot free until my best friend grabbed me in horror to tell me she just saw toilet water coming out of the bathroom!!I of course helped her clean up the mess, but never owned up to being the culprit. I know what I did was despicable, but is it forgivable? I still feel terrible two days later!Source

Sunday Confessional: I Overflowed her Toilet

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Sunday Confessional: I Hit My Girlfriend

DearSugar — Sun, 27 May 2007 09:00:00 -0700

I am really confused. It's been seven days and my girlfriend of one year has not picked up my calls or spoken to me. Seven days ago, we had a major argument at her place and I had couple of drinks too many, then one thing led to another and I hit her. After I realized what I had done, it was too late. She had no interest in listening to what I had to say so I left. I am doing everything in my power to let her know how sorry I am, but she won't accept any of my attempts. My feelings of guilt and horror are unimaginable. I know I will never ever do it again -- this experience completely changed me. I never could have imagined being such a bad guy. I am really down in the dumps and don't know where to go from here. Can I ever be forgiven and will I ever be able to forgive myself? Source

Sunday Confessional: I Hit My Girlfriend

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Sunday Confessional: I Am Living a Lie in My Own Home

DearSugar — Sun, 20 May 2007 09:00:00 -0700

I dated my ex boyfriend for about two years. When I was first getting to know him, I met one of his good friends and had an instant connection with him. From that point on, we would joke around about running away together and how we are having a secret love affair, etc. Except I soon realized I wasn't kidding anymore, and neither was he. So I made plans to break up with my boyfriend so we could be together. Before I had the chance, my boyfriend's friend starting dating someone completely out of the blue. His friends told me it was because he didn't think I was ever going to break up with my boyfriend, and he needed to distract himself and move on with his life.Fast forward a year.I have broken up with that boyfriend. My crush's girlfriend is now my ROOMMATE and I am still in love with him. We have hooked up... twice. He still hasn't broken up with her and I am overwhelmed with guilt, jealousy, and frustration. I am trying to move on, but I'm not sure I will ever be able to, all the while lying to my roommate about sleeping with her boyfriend. My life is just a mess.Source

Sunday Confessional: I Am Living a Lie in My Own Home

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Sunday Confessional: I Lied to Save my Relationship

DearSugar — Sun, 13 May 2007 09:00:00 -0700

I broke up with my boyfriend of a year and a half because I felt like he was taking me for granted. When we were broken up, I created a fake account on MySpace of a really attractive guy and left comments on my page saying things like, "hey beautiful, call me" and "I had so much fun with you this weekend, let's do it again soon", to make him jealous. I did it because I wanted to make him realize that he isn't the only guy out there that would want me. I know it is childish, but it totally made sense to me at the time. I know he read the comments, and soon after, he deleted me from his page, so I have to assume my plan worked! We didn't talk for about a month but have since gotten back together. He treats me like a princess-- obviously our break helped him realize what he was missing. I have no intention of telling him, but should I feel guilty about tricking him or is my behavior forgivable?Source

Sunday Confessional: I Lied to Save my Relationship

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Sunday Confessional: I Didn't Practice What I Preach

DearSugar — Sun, 06 May 2007 09:00:00 -0700

I have always been incredibly anti plastic surgery and have never been afraid to voice my opinion to my friends or family members who have either done it themselves, or contemplated the idea. I think I always preached this way out of insecurity because I wished I had bigger breasts. I was never insecure about my body, but felt my small chest wasn't proportionate to the rest of my body, and after a year of toying with the idea, I took the plunge and got a breast augmentation. I didn't stray too far from my original size because I wasn't planning on telling any of my friends in hopes that they wouldn't be able to really tell.Well, now that I am recovering from surgery, I am still extremely swollen. I have been able to cover them up so far but I am going to a bachelorette party next weekend in Vegas and didn't take the bathing suit wearing weekend into consideration when I scheduled my surgery! Not only do I feel foolish for going against what I have always spoken so negatively about, but also I have been living a lie for the past month about my surgery. There will be no way to hide what I have done after this weekend, so will my friends forgive me?

Sunday Confessional: I Didn't Practice What I Preach

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Sunday Confessional: Too Close for Comfort?

DearSugar — Sun, 29 Apr 2007 09:00:00 -0700

Over the last month or so, I have been getting close with a guy I have had a crush on for quite some time now. We run in the same circle of friends so are together all the time, but have never been on an official date. Since we spend so much time together, all our friends refer to us as a pseudo couple! He is out of town this weekend and last night I went out drinking with all of his buddies. Well, one thing lead to another and his best friend and I started kissing at the bar. Our emotions, combined with too much tequila, got the best of us and before I knew it, we were back at his apartment...We left the bar without saying goodbye and there is no doubt in my mind that everyone saw our interaction. I am so confused here because I am utterly guilt ridden that I betrayed my crush, but then I question my remorse since we are not officially "dating". I know what I did is going to create tension and gossip, I made my bed so I am prepared to sleep in it, but once the dust settles, is what I did forgivable?

Sunday Confessional: Too Close for Comfort?

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Sunday Confessional: I Hit a Parked Car and Ran

DearSugar — Sun, 22 Apr 2007 09:00:00 -0700

Dear Sugar--I really messed up here and don't know where to turn, but I need to get this off my chest. The other night I was driving home from an evening out with friends and committed the unforgivable act of driving drunk. I have always preached against this, but I honestly felt, at the time, that I was OK to drive. Well, of course that wasn't the case and I accidentally side swiped a parked car on my way home. Needless to say I was scared and horribly disgusted with myself, but to add insult to injury, I cowardly drove away without leaving a note. From what I could tell, I didn't do much, if any damage to the parked car and no one saw me. I drove immediately home, noticed all the damage to my car, but still didn't go back to the scene to leave my information. I have not said anything to anyone out of utter embarrassment and fear of the repercussions. I already know that what I did is not forgivable, but I just needed to get that off my chest and finally breathe a sigh of relief.Source

Sunday Confessional: I Hit a Parked Car and Ran

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Sunday Confessional Reminder!!

DearSugar — Sat, 21 Apr 2007 13:00:00 -0700

Hi Everyone,

I am so happy to see how much you have all been enjoying the Sunday Confessionals!

For all you new readers out there, this is your chance to finally free yourself of your latest sins. Write in asking for forgiveness and have others vote for your redemption. You can write about anything from forgetting to water your plants for two weeks, to lying to your landlord about not having this month's rent, while hiding the new silver Jimmy Choo sling backs in your Hermes Birkin.

As always, everything is confidential so feel free to rid yourself of your deepest, darkest sins and wipe that guilty conscience clean!

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Sunday Confessional: I Lied to Keep my Boyfriend from Breaking up with Me

DearSugar — Sun, 15 Apr 2007 09:00:00 -0700

My boyfriend and I have been together for just under two years, but the last eight months or so have been extremely rocky. We first got together after he broke off an engagement to a woman he fell out of love with. He told me he wasn't ready to be in a relationship, but things progressed between us and we fell in love. Everything had been wonderful, and then all of a sudden he became distant. It was almost like he flipped a switch and I could feel him starting to pull away. Last week he told me this relationship was moving too quickly for him and he wanted to take a break. Well, we all know what breaks lead to, so I did something terrible and almost unforgivable-- I lied and told him I was pregnant to make him stay. I know what I did was wrong, dishonest, and cheap, but seeing the look of excitement on his face made it seem not all that bad. Not only have I trapped myself in a terrible lie, but I also now need to get pregnant!! I feel like I am living in a bad soap opera, but unfortunately it's the mess of a life I made for myself. Will my deception be worth it in the long run or will I be plagued with guilt my entire life? Source

Sunday Confessional: I Lied to Keep my Boyfriend from Breaking up with Me

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Sunday Confessional: I Skipped Out on my Bridesmaid Duties

DearSugar — Sun, 08 Apr 2007 09:00:00 -0700

My boyfriend of six months moved me back to his hometown so he could be closer to his family. I had never met his mom before we moved and although we have only met three times, she asked me to be a bridesmaid in her wedding, which was last weekend. I didn't think I could say no so I agreed under pressure. I am painfully shy and shudder at the thought of being in the spotlight. That, mixed with the worst bridesmaid dress imaginable; black, floor length, puffy sleeved, and fit for a funeral, I faked sick and backed out of my bridesmaid duties the morning of her wedding. I am not an actress by any means, but everyone bought my story. Now that I am home alone, while my boyfriend and his entire family are celebrating my could be mother-in-law's marriage, I am feeling utterly guilt ridden. Am I the most terrible, vain, selfish human being imaginable? Source

Sunday Confessional: I Skipped Out on my Bridesmaid Duties

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Sunday Confessionals Are Back!!!

DearSugar — Thu, 05 Apr 2007 20:42:33 -0700

Hi Everyone,

I have heard all your requests to bring back Sunday Confessionals, and I am happy to inform you that this Sunday, your requests will be granted!

This is your chance to finally free yourself of your latest sins. Write in asking for forgiveness and have others vote for your redemption. You can write about anything from forgetting to water your plants for two weeks, to lying to your landlord about not having this month's rent, while hiding the new silver Jimmy Choo sling backs in your Hermes Birkin.

As always, everything is confidential so feel free to rid yourself of your deepest, darkest sins and wipe that guilty conscience clean!

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Sunday Confessional: I Had an Abortion and Haven't Told my Fiancé

DearSugar — Sun, 01 Apr 2007 09:00:00 -0700

Dear SugarI am engaged, and my wedding day is fast approaching. My husband to be couldn't be any more perfect for me, but I have not been 100% truthful with him and my guilt is starting to take a toll on me. My fiancé is extremely Catholic and comes from a very religious family. I was raised Catholic as well, but my family never put much emphasis on religion. We have been together for almost 5 years and I feel like the luckiest woman in the world to have such an amazing partner. We just completed our marriage preparation courses and during our Foccus class, I withheld information about my past that I am afraid will haunt me forever. The first time I had sex, when I was 17; I got pregnant by my then boyfriend. Obviously this came as a total surprise, clearly neither one of us was educated on safe sex, and I decided, after much consideration, to have an abortion. I know I did the right thing and to this day stand by my decision, but I never told my fiancé due to his strong religious beliefs. While I know he loves me and supports everything I do, I feel like if I tell him now, he will question my trust throughout our entire relationship. I love my future husband and don't want to jeopardize our relationship, but I feel horrible about starting our lives as husband and wife under false pretenses. Am I wrong to keep this to myself?Source

Sunday Confessional: I Had an Abortion and Haven't Told my Fiancé

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Sunday Confessionals Are Back!!!

DearSugar — Fri, 30 Mar 2007 14:21:20 -0700

Hi Everyone,

I have heard all your requests to bring back Sunday Confessionals, and I am happy to inform you that this Sunday, your requests will be granted!

As always, everything is confidential so feel free to rid yourself of your deepest, darkest sins and wipe that guilty conscience clean!

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Sunday Confessionals Are Back!!!

DearSugar — Thu, 29 Mar 2007 14:00:00 -0700

Hi Everyone,

I have heard all your requests to bring back Sunday Confessionals, and I am happy to inform you that this Sunday, your requests will be granted!

As always, everything is confidential so feel free to rid yourself of your deepest, darkest sins and wipe that guilty conscience clean!

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Sunday Confessional: I Spied To Save My Marriage

DearSugar — Sun, 28 Jan 2007 08:00:00 -0800

Dear SugarMy husband and I have been married for a year and a half. We met in our early thirties and dated for about three years before we got married. This is my husband's second marriage, and my first. We now have a child, and I must admit that our sex life has fallen by the wayside. We used to have sex a couple of times a week, and now I feel like it is more like a couple of times a month. It really upsets me because my body has changed so much since the baby, and I guess I am feeling less attractive to him. I don't want to feel insecure in my marriage, so the other night I decided to bring this sensitive subject up with my husband. His reaction might be the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard. I love my husband, but I have to say that this is the first time I have ever seriously considered divorce. He told me that sometimes, the reason he isn't in the mood for sex is because part of him feels like he is cheating on his ex-wife. This prompted me to do something very bad, something illegal actually. I hired a shady photographer friend of mine to spy on my husband's ex and her new boyfriend at their house. I asked him to take close-up pictures of them having sex. Isn't this genius! Now I have some proof to show my husband that she has completely moved on. I know this is immature, but I did what I did to save my marriage. I haven't shown him the pictures yet - I can only hope that he doesn't get jealous and admit to still being in love with her!

Sunday Confessional: I Spied To Save My Marriage

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Sunday Confessional: Business or Pleasure?

DearSugar — Sun, 21 Jan 2007 07:00:00 -0800

Dear SugarI am a director at a public relations company, and I have just finished an extensive job search. I met a couple of great, highly qualified women, but to be honest, in the back of my mind I was always looking to hire a man - preferably on the very attractive side. The truth is that I am single, and I spend quite a lot of my time at work. My office is primarily comprised of women, and I haven't really had the time to date in almost a year. Clearly, I am not hiring him strictly based on his looks since I still need someone competent, but I would be lying if I didn't think that there was a possibility of forging something more than just a work relationship. I am not going to abuse my power to force something romantic but isn't it true that 25% of people meet at work? I know that it is common for a man to hire attractive women in the business world so does this make it wrong for me to do the same thing?

Sunday Confessional: Business or Pleasure?

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Sunday Confessional: I Slept With My Friend's Father

DearSugar — Sun, 14 Jan 2007 08:36:05 -0800

Dear Sugar I had an affair with my best friend's father who was 24 years older than me (he was 47 and I was 23). He was going through a separation with his wife, who also happened to be my friend's step mother. At the time, he was sad, vulnerable, handsome, and VERY persuasive. I found myself feeling sorry for him and one thing lead to another when my friend left for work one morning after I had spent the night at her house. He was the first guy that I have ever been with that was significantly older than me and the sex was fantastic. The problem now is that I find myself dreaming about sleeping with him again all of the time. The one time steamy affair happened well over a year ago, yet I have still never breathed a word of it to my friend. I did however, run into her father at the grocery store the other day and now it seems like I have to constantly keep myself occupied so that I don't break down and call him. I feel so guilty about this, because I am lying to my friend ... but should I feel guilty about craving the best sex of my life? He is now divorced and single, and I am single too. I know that my friend would feel both disgusted and feel betrayed. However, I must confess that I did it once and if given the chance to do it again, I'd jump on him in a heartbeat!To send me your next confessional, click here.

Sunday Confessional: I Slept With My Friend's Father

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Sunday Confessional: Don't Hate Me Because I'm Superficial

DearSugar — Sun, 07 Jan 2007 07:30:00 -0800

Dear Sugar About a year ago, I met a really nice guy online. We talked, emailed and IM'ed for an entire month before meeting face to face. When I finally met him I was so excited, but to my dismay, he turned out to be fat, hairy and ugly. I started to panic trying to figure out how I could leave the restaurant, but his saving grace was his sense of humor. Drinks turned into dinner and dinner turned into dessert. At that point, he was starting to speak quite seductively to me and we wound up fooling around. For the next few months we would still email and IM as well as eat dinner and then hook up a couple of times a month. I knew that I could never get serious with him, but he's nice, he made me laugh and he was great in bed. Also, I was pretty lonely. A couple of weeks ago, my friends found out about him and they all gave me a hard time. I let them mock me because I know they love me and they think that I am too pretty for a guy like him...Yes, I know I sound like a bit*h. Anyway, I guess deep down I knew that this wasn't going anywhere so I stopped returning his calls and emails and have completely stopped seeing him cold turkey. The problem however is that I am as horny as a toad! I know that what I did to him is cruel. He's a perfectly nice guy and I am sure I have made him feel like crap. I just wish that I wasn't so horny. Every time I go out all I can think about is sex and it's prohibiting me from seeing what's really important in a guy. I confess that last night I showed up at his door wearing nothing but a black lace bra and panties under a trench coat and we did it all night long. After he fell asleep I left. Can you understand why I did what I did? Can you forgive me?

Sunday Confessional: Don't Hate Me Because I'm Superficial

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Sunday Confessional: I Wrecked His Rep

DearSugar — Sun, 31 Dec 2006 07:30:00 -0800

Dear SugarI'd been pressing a friend of mine to tell me who he liked. I did this partly because I was honestly interested, and partly because his social awkwardness means that when we're alone, I try to take control of the conversation. I feel like I have to focus on topics that don't include video games, politics or serious moral discussions so that I don't get bored. One night he was giving me a ride home and I was teasing him about his mysterious crush. He was acting strangely, and I was beginning to get the idea that maybe the girl he liked was me! This was confirmed when he stopped the car, turned to face me, and said that he'd liked me for months.I of course said that I didn't have any idea that he felt this way and this caught him off guard. From that moment on things became awkward. Once we reached my house he told me how embarrassed he was for sharing his feelings with me and kept saying that he wished the whole incident never happened. He told me that he's been rejected before and it hurt him a lot. As badly as I felt for him, I guess I was also feeling a little bit of empowerment since it just hit me just how much he liked me. As a kind gesture, I gave him a hug...and then I kissed him.As soon as I stepped out of the car, I knew my gesture was going to be taken the wrong way. I didn't like him as a boyfriend, in fact at the time I liked another guy who I heard through the grapevine was planning on asking me out. Then I panicked thinking that if the guy I liked heard about the kiss he might not call me. I know this is cruel and wrong, but I denied having kissed him to everyone who had heard about it. When people would come up to me and ask me about it, I'd vehemently deny the kiss and just say that I'd only given him a hug after he spilled his guts to me. I made it sound like the way that he asked me was so much more ridiculous than it really was, just to back my point. Since I had a reputation as a nice girl and he had a reputation as being a needy guy, people assumed that he was a pathetic and delusional liar. It's been six months and I have only gone out on three dates with the guy that I really liked. He wound up to be such a disappointment. All of the mutual friends that I have with the other guy that I kissed still talk about how badly they feel for me that I had to suffer through him telling the world that I kissed him.He just thinks that I was tired that night and so I don't really recall what happened. In no way does he think that I've made him look like such a loser. I could have come clean but I never have. Can you forgive me for lying so that the guy I really liked would call me?

Sunday Confessional: I Wrecked His Rep

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