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If you can make it through the day in one piece, go for it. But you have the rest of your life to be with your soul mate.

I think it's other. I know people who have and those who haven't. It can be quite an overwhelming day...that's what morning sex is for!!

I voted other. On my wedding night all my husband and I wanted to do was sleep it was 3am we had been up since 7 the morning before and hadn't slept in weeks. I have to say though the wedding night sex was definitly worth giving up some sleep for. Its completly different then any other time it was just a different feeling. I think had we waitied till morning the moment would have been lost. IMO its worth the lack of sleep

I voted other. On my wedding night all my husband and I wanted to do was sleep it was 3am we had been up since 7 the morning before and hadn't slept in weeks. I have to say though the wedding night sex was definitly worth giving up some sleep for. Its completly different then any other time it was just a different feeling. I think had we waitied till morning the moment would have been lost. IMO its worth the lack of sleep

More to the point, I just don't get why people have weddings so late! If you don't have your reception starting till 8pm, well of cause you'll be exhausted! Here's to afternoon receptions, get the happy couple out of there by 6pm or so.

i say mandatory. there is only going to be ONE wedding night.

It's not mandatory. I started my period on my wedding day, I was very upset about it, but my new hubby was super understanding and I made sure to take care of him that night and during the honeymoon.

It should just be okay to do whatever you are both comfortable with.

Yeah - it's totally up to the bride and groom. Since most couples have already had sex before their wedding night, just sleeping together for the 1st time as husband and wife should be special enough. Then there's plenty of time for making out on the honeymoon!!

Nothing on earth is mandatory. If you're too tired, you won't enjoy yourself, no offense to my dear, darling Sugar authors, but this is kind of a stupid question.

Absolutely!

here we go again with the suggestion that sex is the "biggie". HELLO, marriage is the biggie! will it matter in 10 years if you had sex on your wedding night? will you even remember (i don't, but it would seem the thing to do). we have more to offer than sex ladies. making a commitment to a person that says "till death do us part" and i will have your children is about as big as it gets.

well, i guess it depends on the husband and wife. if they're dead tired from the wedding, they might not even enjoy. just take your time. you'll have your entire marriage to get it on.

Not mandatory at all. I think that the "sex on wedding night" thing goes back to when people stayed virgins until they got married.

When I get married, I'll probably want to spend the night opening my gifts and sleeping.

I think it just depends on the couple. If/when i get married i'd expect to have sex on my wedding night, but i know plenty of couples that didn't. One of my nans closest friends only ever had sex once, that was on her wedding night!

I said other. It's a personal preference I believe.

everyone kept saying dead tired, how about totally drunk? there's plenty of time once you're on you're honeymoon!

whoops... *your honeymoon*

i don't know anyone who had sex on his or her wedding night. it's such a long and exhausting day...i mean we have the rest of our lives to do that so sleep was higher on the adgenda.

i don't know anyone who had sex on his or her wedding night. it's such a long and exhausting day...i mean we have the rest of our lives to do that so sleep was higher on the adgenda.

kungfubunni, drunk happens. i took care of puking hubby and i have a girlfriend who had to hold her husband's hair back on their wedding night! think of it was a sign of true luv

Ive known people who have and some who havent, its totally up to the couple. I knew we both were going to be very tired and didnt put a huge pressure on myself that it HAD to happen- in our case we did, and it was meaningful bc it was our wedding night- but I wouldnt have been heartbroken if we had been too exhausted- the important thing was that we were married.

i was too exhausted i took a zanax and went boo beddy!

i can see that if you've been waiting for marriage to have sex, that yes, it will be very exciting. even so, i still said yes just b/c it will be fun to finally share this for the first time as a married couple. I can completely understand the exhaustion thing, especially if you are catching an early morning honeymoon flight the next day. lol. maybe one tumble in the hay and then it's lights out!

rubialala - ooo period on your wedding day? how did you cope? i would have been super uncomfortable the whole day in that white dress!!

Its a beautiful moment to make love for the first time as husband and wife but if you're both exhausted and I was then that's ok too.

LaLaLaurie06, it totally sucked. I wasn't too worried about the white dress thing, I've never had a problem with "leaking" - but I was uncomfortable most of the day and really bummed out about the wedding night and honeymoon. I cried because I though my husband was going to be mad at me!!! Like it's my fault! But he was really sweet about the whole thing. If this can every be planned, though, DON'T schedule your wedding if you think you might be on your period!

thank god for the pill then b/c i'm a leaker! since i've been on the pill, i know exactly when my period will come...which was today....ugh.

We were enroute to the airport and waiting for our flight to Hawaii - so not on the first night and the second night we had been awake for almost 48 hours (except for the zzzzz we got on the plane - so we both fell asleep looking at the room service menu of the hotel and we were in separate beds because we both just plopped down where ever we could to relax!

*coughs*three times*coughs*

Pity the marriage didn't end that way.

uhh more than likely you will be exhausted and starving to death like we were lol, we ordered room service and slept like cozy babies, but we are old and all

yea I like to but I think I'll be so tired that night!

I said other b/c I would love to and it's what I have been looking forward to but at the same time I would more than likely be exhausted and he will probably have drunk too much.

I think "mandatory" has negative connotations. Of course sex on the wedding night isn't an OBLIGATION--that is, you don't HAVE to have sex--but why wouldn't you want to? There's something hot about wedding night sex, even if it isn't your first time.