no one would dare tell me i gained weight, cuz that's beyond rude!
but when i recently lost 30lb i got lots of comments about how good i looked and i said thankyou! it was hard!

I was always super skinny and hated it, im talking 100pounds.. people always used to comment on it and it made me feel so bad! I actually had to work at gaining weight and managed to gain like 15 pounds which i am happy about

Same here I don't know what to do with myself 'cause I weigh 110 but when I do gain weight it just goes to my buns and thighs anyway. Sigh. But yes, my family isn't shy about making comments AT ALL. I'm either depressed and anorexic or carried away, ha

I get alot of "have you been eating??" or "I don't want to worry about you" because I'm very skinny. I just say "Yes, but thank you for the concern." It gets irritating.

I totally gained weight. I always put on like 10-15 when the summer is over. I just get skinny and eat like a bird for bikini season. No one ever says anything though. I think they are used to it.

i WISH my problem was that i looked too skinny. jeez. but no one in my family can talk about my being chubby or having gained cuz they gave me the fat genes. and i'm basically the skinniest one anyway.

People comment that I'm thin (I'm not skinny, but in comparison to most of my coworkers and family...). It only annoys me when they make it sound like it's just because I'm in my 20s.

I work hard to maintain my figure. I exercise six days a week, do yoga, and I eat wholesome foods, most of which consist of food from the farmer's market cooked at home. I eat dessert, but only those that really do it for me (i.e., I never pass up dark chocolate, but donuts aren't my thing so I don't eat them).

All of that took a lot of time and discipline to become habit, and it irks me when people dismiss it. I used to be 25 pounds heavier, and I can gain weight for just LOOKING at cake. My genes definitely work against me.

I never say anything, though. It's not worth it, and I doubt they want their delusions and excuses challenged. That might lead to real work.

I've never really had a problem with my weight fluctuating up and down. My g/f is so self conscious about every pound or inch she gains, it's sometimes exhausting to listen to. She's gained about 5 pounds so far, but I know that's normal for the season. By the time it starts getting warm again, she'll be back down to her bikini weight. All in all, I never have any complaints about it.

i had a relative one time say to me "oh, looks like you've put on some weight. you look good." Seriously? WTF? I was totally pissed. You just don't say that. I am self-conscious about my weight even when i am at my lowest weight, but when i put on some pounds, don't talk about it.

my mom usually tells me I look skinny but no one else says anything.

when my brother lost a lot of weight after his growth spurt everyone commented on it and he didn't really want to talk about it at all, Because I guess even though they mean it as a compliment it's like, "because you used to be so fat" is implied and that's not nice.

so what CAN you say?

I've put on some weight, not going to lie. But I'm really looking forward to start losing it again! I want to feel active

My Grandma is soo vain, and if you look ugly in her eyes she'll say something. She thought my sister and I were too fat after having our children. "Haven't you lost that weight yet? I didn't even gain a pound and fit right back into my clothes." We've learned to deal with her comments and try our best not to slap her and smile.

"Is that all you're eating" in referral to my NORMAL sized portions (they're the ones with distorted portion views) and "Are you sure you don't want any?" in referral to the lard pie which I actually really don't want, as I have lost 60 lbs and have been keeping it off.

My grandpa seems to love letting me know that I should exercise more. I'm slightly overweight, but by no means obese. He likes to say "Do you get enough exercise at school?" followed by "Make sure you do, you're nicely proportioned but a little big in the hips".

I usually just let it slide but it does get annoying and I know he'll be doing the same routine in just about a week. *sigh*!

Brown-eyed-grrl I'm right there with you! I am one of the youngest girls at my job and all the older ladies say "You're so fit" "I wish I were your age again" but I too work my booty off at the gym every week! I used to be heavier (gained 20lbs in college) and it took me 3yrs to get to the size I am now. I just hope I continue this lifestyle forever! My weight is by far the topic I am most self conscience about
When I gained weight no one really said anything to me. But after I lost it that's when all the comments that were being said behind my back came out. I was so angry. But, I just told myself to get over it and not let them rain on my parade. People will ALWAYS have something to say. Now, I even get the "OMG your soo skinny now" comment. It's all just annoying! Some have even asked me if I have a problem! No, I eat!! Jeeze!
Bluepuppybites- Aren't grandparents funny like that?! Never afraid to be blunt!! Your "slapping" comment made me LOL!

When I was living with my ex I gained like 30 pounds.
So last year during the holidays they told me I had gotten thicker. lol.

I wasn't mad, but I did feel insecure and that did motivated to get a membership at the gym. Plus after my 6 year break up I lost even more weight.
So this year I have lost like 30 pounds.
and loosing.

My family will be stoked.

God I loathe this question, I will get both at the same family gathering! One relative will ask if I've gained weight and another person will tell me I'm not eating enough!! "Oh you youngsters and you're metabolism!"

My family always gets worried if I lose weight and will ask if I've been eating.

I have always been thin, but about 10 years ago weighed maybe 5 pounds more than I do now, then lost 10 pounds. 10 pounds is a significant fluctuation on a 5 foot frame. My ex-boyf's father said "what happened to your T and A?" UGH!

LOL I think this is my favorite question probably because I'm never ever ever asked it ( I'm pretty fit and have always been that way). I can hear and see my grandmother now though sitting at the head of the table as people walk in the house ( BTW this is everyday not just holidays ) and asking them " you looking a little big ain't ya" or out right saying " your getting fat" but in the same breath fixing them a huge plate of food and then sending them off with leftovers aahahhaah.

I don't get a comment I just get more food on my plate than anyone else a round about way to try and fatten me up so I can make babies ahahahaha!

Augh! I hate it!

I'm fairly certain that there are certain issues that I am more susceptible to, and have been dealing with those along with the weight loss.

It does not make me happy to be praised because of that.

Lost weight recently. Just been exercising more regularly and have been eating healthier, it's just a lifestyle change. I don't really have weight fluctuation issues. I'm good at maintaining it.

Being that I just lot a bit of weight, I already know I'm gonna get this one cos I've been getting it a lot at work. I just say "Not that I know of...?"

@Bitte Ein Kuss--Re: Grandparents--My grandfather told my cousin that she was too pretty to let herself gain weight. The girl was maybe a size 6 at the time. She used to be a 2, but she also used to do drugs. She quit with the hard stuff, went to college, and put on a little weight. Was not too heavy by any stretch of the imagination. Only wish I had been there when he said that.

@FoxyJo--I relate! I also gained the weight in college, took about three years to figure out how to lose it, and I'm also the youngest in my office. I, too, have some anxiety about weight. When I gain five pounds, I freak out a little. I think I'm scared I'll gain back the weight and feel unhappy again, which is silly because I've kept up my lifestyle for over two years now, and I truly enjoy veggies and working out, but it's still there in the back of my mind.

365UIK your av is so adorable!

Anyway I think I might get some questions this year. I'm in the process of buying a house and moving and I'm very stressed. I lose weight under stress and this is no exception.

Most of the people who I am seeing over the holidays will have last seen me about 10 pounds heavier. I look a little gaunt at the moment - it's not a look that I'm psyched about.

In Korea, and for many other asian cultures, relatives ALWAYS talk about weight. I'm only 18 and every time I see relatives I haven't seen in a while, they comment on how much weight I gained/lost. Its always the first topic of conversation!

i HATE when people comment about my weight since i've had a history of eating disorders, and now i'm getting to a more healthy and good place in my life. if i'm called out on looking healthier then in some bad way i take it to mean fat, and then i'm a mess for the rest of the night. i try to keep myself out of those situations so no one can comment on me.

I don't see the point...they're always going to ask some annoying question or comment...are you married? Are you pregnant? You look fat, you look thin, you look stressed, you look tired, where do you work? What did you get in school? What kinda car you got? Blah blah blah, at this point I find myself taking a bathroom break (I don't really have to pee, it's an escape).

UGH. I have this aunt who I see every Thanksgiving and she is obsessed with thinness. Usually she always praises me for being slender, but one time a couple years ago she said that I had put on a little weight. I was only 103 lbs, but at the time my overly weight-sensitive, borderline eating-disorder self was so hurt by the comment that I literally couldn't speak for a few minutes and I had to bite down on my lip not to cry in front of everybody. Thankfully I've gotten over those issues from long ago, and I could care less whether my aunt praises or criticizes me this year because I happen to love my figure (and so does my boyfriend coincidentally) so there!

When I started my new job, I dropped 15 pounds in 4 months. But, now that I no longer stress about going to work everyday, I've gotten my appetite back, and put back on 10 pounds. I try to walk about 6-7 miles a week, but with it being cold, the dam is a little bit cold to walk across in the a.m.

If my family was like some of the grandmothers mentioned above, they would never see me for holidays, or any other event. I prefer to not see my family than to feel terrible about my self when i do see them.

I ALWAYS just want to answer weight-related questions with a simple "Of course I lost weight, I don't stuff my face with crap like you all do" but that's pretty rude too, just like asking about weight fluctuations.
Seriously though, it's not bloody magic, it's hard work.

I am petite - only 5'1" and 100 lbs and my weight doesn't fluctuate. Even still, I am always asked if I'm eating enough or if I'm skipping meals. My mom is always asking "Are you sure you don't want more food?" It has gotten really old, but it seems to be routine for holiday time. I am naturally small, and it is tiring having to respond to the same questions every holiday season.

This is the first HOliday season where I am a normal weight. I am excited to see what will happen bc usually i have to deal with a bunch of "awww you are so thin" crap.

No one really says anything to me anymore (thank goodness I don't have to see my former in-laws!) but it's hard in my own head. My stepsisters are both very thin, and I am very not. Their mom is super-skinny though, and I've just never ever been naturally thin. It's mainly the dialogue in my own head that is hard to deal with.

I'm quite thin and it irks me when people tell me I'm too skinny. I work to be fit and healthy and I love my body. It is the worst when they are relatives because you can't be mean! I fend off the relations with the age old "I'm the same size as always." and then change the subject. Beware those who are not family though, if they comment they will get an icy cold "Back off." My body is entirely my business, not theirs. I've struggled with an eating disorder since I was nine and now that I am at a healthy place that I am happy with I don't appreciate people knocking it.

UGH lawchick what a gross comment for him to make!!

I field rude comments about my weight all the time. I've always been thin; it runs in my family. And by thin, I mean that I'm built like Popeye's GF Olive Oyle. It was fabulous back when I was a dancer, but after graduating from college there really isn't room for that in my life anymore...so it's like I no longer have an "excuse" to look the way I do. I wear clothes that I know visually add a few pounds when I'm going to be around my family...especially my in-laws or my grandmother!

I hate hearing "You got really fat!" (yep, no tact here folks) and my worse is "You used to be so pretty, what happened?"
Yep because apparently fat equals ugly and the "pretty" they refer to is back when I had a major eating disorder and I was skinny, my hair was begining to fall out and I looked bruised around my eyes. Yeah, thats hot.