Unless you are doing a small family-only wedding, then it sounds like a bad idea.

I agree. Not a very nice thing to do.

why would you do that? don't.

i hope you didn't send the invites out already! good save on the second-guessing.

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Bluejeanie, it works even better with your avatar!

Don't do it!!! I think this is definitely poor etiquette. Only invite those that are invited to your wedding. Have fun!

I would say it is quite inconsidered of you to invite them. If you have time, stop the invites.

I agree. It is bad. Don't do it. It looks very tacky.

There is a girl friend I have in the city who I'm only so so friends with, not because I don't think she's great, but because we just have never spent a lot of time together. I never in a million years expected to be invited to the wedding. But I swear I was hoping to be invited to the bachelorette party! And since my close friend organized the party for her, I ended up being invited, though I couldn't go. But if I could have, I definitely would have! And I wouldn't have been bitter AT ALL.

If it's done right, it might be okay to hang with these so less close friends might be thrilled to have a fun night out with you.

traditional etiquette states that you shouldn't invite people to wedding functions (i.e., reception dinner, bridal shower, etc.) who aren't invited to the wedding. the end. do it if you want to, but be prepared for the embarrassment.

Most people have someone else plan the party, maybe they can be your "scapegoat" they wouldn't know any better right?

I'd be insulted if I was asked to the Bachelorette Party and not the wedding. I say no.

I was invited to a Bachelorette party for a girl whose wedding I wasn't invited to, and I was fine with it. I guess it depends if you think they would find it offensive or not.

I agree with the others. It looks like you're trying to get gifts out of people you didn't consider fit to invite to your big day. I understand that may be far from the truth, but that's how it LOOKS.

At my best friend's bachelorette party there was girl that came that wasn't invited to the wedding. One of the other bridesmaids, that wasn't as close with the rest of us, asked the bride if she could invite her friend that we all had met before so she could be more comfortable. We all had a good time.

Ugh! I feel bad. I have invited (already) 4 girls that were not invited to the wedding. I am having a destination wedding and so only super close friends were invited. However, I did invite some girls from work to the "bachelorette party" because, to be honest a few of them asked me about it. If I was having one, etc. Is this bad? Can't I just use the "Destination Wedding" excuse?