My boyfriend and I have been together for just under two years, but the last eight months or so have been extremely rocky. We first got together after he broke off an engagement to a woman he fell out of love with. He told me he wasn't ready to be in a relationship, but things progressed between us and we fell in love.
Everything had been wonderful, and then all of a sudden he became distant. It was almost like he flipped a switch and I could feel him starting to pull away. Last week he told me this relationship was moving too quickly for him and he wanted to take a break. Well, we all know what breaks lead to, so I did something terrible and almost unforgivable-- I lied and told him I was pregnant to make him stay. I know what I did was wrong, dishonest, and cheap, but seeing the look of excitement on his face made it seem not all that bad.
Not only have I trapped myself in a terrible lie, but I also now need to get pregnant!! I feel like I am living in a bad soap opera, but unfortunately it's the mess of a life I made for myself. Will my deception be worth it in the long run or will I be plagued with guilt my entire life?
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Definitely unforgiveable. Why would you do something like that? What do you think he's gonna say when your next period comes along? Do you honestly think that he won't find out? He probably aleady told his family, too. After a couple of months go by and you're not showing signs of being pregnant, it's going to become painfully obvious that you trapped him. The relationship is already going downhill...why would you bring a child into it? You are obviously not mature enough to handle a serious relationship of your own, much less become a mother. I say break the news to him now, but don't expect him to want to become "friends" after this.